Preparing the Space of Love

Now in the loving embrace of a conscious being, preparing for a life of love together, in shared union, I have found that the inner joy and love that I found, is expressed outwardly in another, reflected by another.  For Christmas, Cameron gifted me a water system that re-mineralizes water and therefore the body. We are exercising and eating whole healthy foods, and continuing our own healing path, so that the children that come through us are coming through the healthiest possible systems.  The new science of Epigenetics says that what we eat, drink, think and feel, before conception directly relates to the future health of the child.

I have started to take Folic Acid now everyday so that the nervous system of the child will develop to its highest potential.  I am meditating regularly and choosing on a daily basis what are the most loving activities that I can do for myself and my partner.

During my meditations I create the space of Love, using Dr. Laskow’s “Unconditional Love Process,” in which I connect with the child in spirit.  This is strengthening our connection on a daily basis, knowing that the child will be brought through in that Space of Love.  Kahil Gibran says “that our children do not come from us, but through us” which I am holding in mind.  This child needs a conduit or a channel through which it will come, that is as loving, nurturing and as healthy as it can be. 

Every morning Cameron chooses fresh vegetables and fruits – some directly from the garden – and blends them into a healthy shake.  This is the best way for us both to start the day!  We are finding that we have more energy from these live, raw foods.  There is less stress in our daily lives as we prepare for our union later this year and the sacred co-creation of children.

Early and Very Early Parenting

Early and Very Early Parenting
Very Early Parenting Starts Before Conception

by David Charmberlain, Ph.D

If early parenting is what takes place from conception to birth, then very early parenting begins before conception! This is daring new territory to explore.
To a pioneering minority holding the ideal of conscious conception, parenting has always been seen as a spiritual process in which they wanted to participate fully and consciously. A handbook for many in this group has been the book by Jeannine and Frederick Baker, Conscious Conception: Elemental Journey Through the Labyrinth of Sexuality (Monroe, UT, Freestone Publishing or Berkeley, CA: North Atlantic Books, 1986). Their practice assumes the soul of the baby exists prior to its joining the family. Today, there are additional motivations for beginning parenting before conception, namely the lengthening list of reproductive hazards in the contemporary world.
A growing group of modern parents appreciate that their own health, habits, and environment will determine the quality of their conception and they know their efforts at “quality control” can spare their baby from a lifetime of sickness and handicap. They are not alone in realizing that with habitual use, alcohol, drugs, and tobacco are teratogens which can create birth defects. For example, when fathers are cigarette smokers, they damage their sperm and pass to their offspring a higher risk of childhood cancer. Experts estimate that as many as 15% of childhood cancers could be due to smoking by fathers. The cancer risk is proportional to the number of cigarettes smoked per day. Parent smoking also plays a role in sudden infant death syndrome and in production of smaller babies. How many mothers and fathers would deliberately create cancer in their children if they knew how to avoid it?

Bad timing can have unforseen results. For example, if mothers consume alcohol at the time of conception, they raise the risk of giving birth to babies with facial anomalies (and having to look at these anomalies for a lifetime). To avoid other birth defects, couples preparing for a conscious (rather than unconscious) conception may want to rid themselves of heavy metals, eliminate the need for multiple prescriptions, or fortify themselves nutritionally before bringing egg and sperm together. Having sufficient folic acid in the system before conception may insure normal development of the neural tube, protecting their child from spina bifida and anencephaly. Chronic occupational stress can lower fertility rates, preventing parenting altogether. When it doesn’t, an unplanned conception may provide a stiff challenge to the baby who must continually swim in a sea of discontent that is not their fault! Over the years, I have met a succession of pregnant TV producers and “anchors” who asked me whether working through to the last weeks of pregnancy might effect their unborn children! How could it not affect them?

Health risks aside, some parents today are being startled by encounters with babies before they have been conceived. These parents are drawn into very early parenting by vivid dreams, visions, and appearances that come weeks, months, or even years in advance of physical conception. Prepared for it or not, their perspective on parenthood becomes distinctly spiritual. Members of APPPAH have written about these encounters. When I first read their work, I was reminded of when I first read Raymond Moody’s now-famous little book, Life After Life (1995), which quietly introduced the revolutionary concept of the “near-death experience.” This book began sweeping the world, based on only fifty in-depth interviews with people who had had the near-death experience.
The remarkable book by Elisabeth Hallett, Soul Trek: Meeting Our Children on the Way to Birth (Hamilton, MT: Light Hearts Publishing, 1995), contains nine years of research collecting anecdotal reports from 180 persons who told about visitations, inner voices, subtle “knowings,” and other types of contact with their babies prior to conception. One baby successfully pressed his mother not to have an abortion, saying “Mommy, I’ll be a good boy, please keep me.” These engaging and powerful contacts, imbued with purpose and intelligence, have made a profound impression on those visited. Showing up in spiritual form, the future babies have brought reassurance, conveyed love, announced, persuaded, offered guidance, and otherwise sought to prepare mothers (some of whom were not yet even married) for their future coming. In a case dramatized on television, the future child contacted the mother, father, and a sibling, independently appearing, disappearing, and returning to them (Sightings, 1997). Elizabeth’s book is packed with stories which exceed the boundaries of the materialist paradigm. You can read some of these stories on our website at Life Before Birth: Communication Before Conception-A Spiritual Frontier.

Theresa Danna, in the booklet, The Link of Love (1996) tells her own experience as a single woman seeing a baby’s face, 6 to 8 months old, with male energy, and light brown eyes “looking right at me.” The same baby appeared seven months later as a three-year old, in a flash when she was falling to sleep. He smiled and said “Mommy, I’m coming.” She said of this visit, “Never have I felt so much love flowing into me…In that moment my outlook on life changed.”
Her friends passed off these experiences as wishful thinking. She wondered if she was going crazy. When she wrote to a magazine and asked if there were parents who had similar experiences, she received 20 replies from different parts of the United States. Stories came from mothers, fathers, and relatives who said they had had this sort of experience but had been too shy to tell others. Thirty very touching and compelling cases can be found in Coming From the Light: Spiritual Accounts of Life Before Birth, by Sarah Hinze (New York: Bantam, 1997). Sarah’s own experience, retold in her book, captured her interest and inspired her search for others who had similar experiences.
In a time when new paradigms are forming to more accurately describe our babies and ourselves, it is exciting to have this new body of literature for study and discussion. New information on the nature of babies illuminates the true beginnings of parenthood and the true nature of parents.

Meeting Your Child in Spirit

Developmentally, we reach a significant stage in our lives in and around the age of eight.  This seems to be when the soul has fully incarnated into form.  I remember the promises that I made to myself at this age so that I would not forget why I had come here.

I asked my Dad if he could recall a time when he was at once ‘everything and nothing, simultaneous.’  When he looked perplexed and surprised by my question he said “No, not really, do you?”  I stated quite matter-of-factly at that age “It feels like floating around in space, it is dark, but everything is Love.”

A promise I made to myself at that age was to be completely honest with myself, which would lead to clear, transparent communication with others throughout my life.  You cannot be completely honest with others if you are not honest with yourself.  Another knowing that I had at this age was that my role in this life is to consciously co-create children…I have always known that I will be a Mother, that I am already in a sense, a Mother.

Interestingly though, I have often been attracted by free-spirited men, those men that are not interested in committment or in having families, the type of man that could be gone tomorrow with a backpack on their back ready for their next adventure.  As exciting and passionate as this lifestyle is, I could not understand why I felt so strongly about having children, and why my thoughts were guided in the direction of one day consciously co-creating…living in conscious community where people can live out their lives expressing who they truly are, in essence.

In 2004 when I was 28 years old, I met a new love, one who melted me back into the memory of Oneness.  One that reminded me that I have never been separate, I have always been LOVE.  He mirrored essence to me on a daily basis.  He reminded me that I am the “love within lovers.” After a month of being blissfully together, we were holding each other one morning, and the spirit of a child entered into our sacred space.

I suddenly looked up feeling an overwhelming sense of LOVE – “Do you have a child?” I asked my new love.  “No” he said.  I explained that the essence of a baby boy had just entered our sphere.  What child is this that is so free, so connected and so loving.  Is this to be our first child?

The experience was so intense and emotional for me that I understood that this new love was to be the father of this child.  And yet, for him, this was not his intended path.  He did not want to be a Father.  We were very happy together for four years, but he was unwavering in regards to committment or to having children.  He would have been a magnificent father, but when he said that he doesn’t intend to ever have children, I was bemused.  “If it happens it happens” he said “And I would support you whatever the scenario, but I cannot promise to always be here”.  This to me wasn’t the ideal scenario, not at all the dream of “conscious co-creation”.

I hung on to the dream as I continued to nurture the connection between the baby soul and myself.  I would talk to the baby and named it (or listen to what he wants to be named) and included it in all the ceremonies, celebrations, meditations and healing practices that I participated in.  Although I understood that time doesn’t exist for this energy in the same way as it does in our realm, I was becoming impatient!

In 2008, my partner in love, decided to leave to follow his adventurous heart to Brasil, where he intended to meditate, and share in the sacred loving essence of pure being.  A part of me died the day he left and I felt that all my dreams, all my knowings and all my love, faded away.

But this love is ever-present, this child is ever-present!

After a year of awakening, self-acceptance and loving “what is” I was approached by a beautiful man, who had been intermittently attending our meditation circle.  We decided it was time to go for coffee together to discuss our own unique experiences of Oneness. I had butterflies in my stomach as I approached the coffee shop, excited to share in loving presence.

After this one meeting of the hearts, we decided to meet again.  On our second meeting, he shared with me his profound truth: “I believe you and I have met to co-create conscious beings together, I am the father for the child that you have been waiting for!”  I was moved to tears at his courage, candidness and loving essence.

We are now engaged to be married, and our futures are aligned as One.  In these writings I will discuss our approach to conscious co-creation, conscious conception, and when the time comes, conscious birthing.  We will be married in July 2010.

“The search for Love ends the moment we find it to be ever-present within” Leonard Laskow

The Spirit of the first child is in constant contact as my new partner and I learn one another…

Two Wolves

An elder Native American was teaching his grandchildren about life. He said to them, “A fight is going on inside me. It is a terrible fight, and it is between two wolves.

One wolf represents fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, jealousy and lies.

The other wolf stands for joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth and compassion.

This same fight is going on inside of you and every other person too.”

The children thought about it for a minute and then one child asked his grandfather,

“Which wolf will win?”

The wise one simply replied: “The one I feed.”

Quote of the Day

“The ‘I am’ came first, it’s ever present, ever available, refuse all thoughts except ‘I am’, stay there.”

© Nisargadatta

 

 

Powerful Beyond Measure

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

- Nelson Mandela

I AM A WILD WOMAN

I AM A WILD WOMAN

I am a wild woman I know, inspite of myself and in spite of what I’ve been told that there’s beauty in every age no matter how old

I am a wild woman I’ve learned what it means to be a life bearer to bear children to create art to plant seeds of love

I am a wild woman from the depths of the dirt underneath my fingernails to the height of my very soul I am one with the Earth the winds from the four directions whisper through my skin

I am a wild woman and the spirit of every wild woman coalesces in me for we are each wild women and we are all the spirit of the wild woman I will follow the voice in my heart

I am a wild woman I sing from my heart I dance with the stars I howl at the moon I love uncontrollably

I am a wild woman from the deepest, darkest, most sacred part of me I am fearless I cry in strength I open my arms to the sky and welcome the rain

I am a wild woman I nurture, love and protect I stand, strongly, silently, sweetly for my brothers I walk dutifully, prayerfully, joyfully upon the mother and I will not be stopped

I am a wild woman.

 

© Melissa Clary

Quote of the Day

“Enlightenment is when reality is awake to itself as itself within itself.” – Adyashanti

A Single Desire

At the moment of awakening one realizes that what they have always been seeking is what they already are in essence.  In the great emptiness, the stillness and the silence, where everything and nothing resides, we already are perfect, enlightened and enlivened.  The laugh comes then to those who allow it – the absurdity of it all – the simplicity of it all – the perfection that we already are, when we realize that we have always already been Home. 

A Single Desire Awakeness is inherent in all things and all beings everywhere all the time. This awakeness relates to every moment from innocence from absolute honesty from a state where you feel absolutely authentic. Only from this state do you realize that you never really wanted whatever you thought you wanted. You realize that behind all of your desires was a single desire: to experience each moment from your true nature.

© Adyashanti.

Quote of the Day

“To be creative means to be in love with life. You can be creative only if you love life enough that you want to enhance its beauty, you want to bring a little more music to it, a little more poetry to it, a little more dance to it.”

“Don’t choose. Accept life as it is in its totality.”

- OSHO